December 2017 update

My apologies that I haven’t updated sooner.  Third trimester pregnancy has been crazy and tougher than I imagined.  They say the older you are the more difficult it is (I’m 37), but I have no comparison to base that on myself so I have to take other people’s word for it.  I’ve also had old back injuries that grew exponentially worse as the baby got bigger and heavier, which meant I had to go to physical therapy for the last few months.  It didn’t cure the problem, but at least the therapist could help make the pain more bearable for me.

Unfortunately, I haven’t gotten nearly as much work done on my next book as I’d hoped.  On my better days I’ve mostly used that time to get ready for the baby.  I set up the nursery which was a lot of work because it was filled with boxes I hadn’t unpacked from my big move this summer, had my baby shower, got my vehicle detailed (it needed the kind of cleaning I couldn’t do at this point) and the husband and I also installed the car seat.  I’ve also been obsessed with keeping the house as clean as possible, and there’s been Christmas shopping to do.

I don’t want to bore you all with the minute details of my life, but if you’re interested in how my pregnancy is progressing you can see my regular updates in my Facebook Fan group.  On there, I posted a video tour of the baby’s nursery, shared pregnant pics of me, and I’ve gotten into more of the nitty-gritty stuff that some people may or may not want to hear.  As a treat, though, here’s a pic of me from  two days ago when I was just shy of 39 weeks along.

The Facebook fan group is also the place where I’ll update first after the baby is born because it’s easier and faster to post there and do all other social media when I have more time.  I will try to provide more updates on this blog later this month on how things are going and when my next books will be out.  Just please bear with me as this is going to be a hectic month.

Wishing everyone happy holidays!

 

 

 

A big plot twist in my life

As this blog post title suggests, I recently had an unexpected twist come up in my life. Something that took me completely by surprise.  Those of you who have been following me for at least a couple of years may recall this post from November 2015 where I talked about some personal troubles I had.  Many of you were kind enough to comment with your support, encouragement, and/or similar stories you’d faced in your own lives. I can’t tell you how much that meant to me.

Now I finally have an update for you and it is good news!

Back in April I discovered I was pregnant.  Yes, really, after ten years of trying.  To say I was shocked would be an understatement, and let’s just say I was certain the pregnancy test must have been broken even if signs pointed toward it being right.  I tapped at the thing, wondering if it was playing a cruel joke on me.  Then I took another test and got the same results.  This was a Saturday night so there was little I could do to confirm it further until Monday when I could call my doctor.  Like me, she’d pretty much given up on me ever conceiving, so needless to say she got me into her office much faster than expected- the next day.  I had to go to the lab first and then be at the clinic an hour later.  Apparently, she and the nurse hovered over the computer waiting for the results to come in and they had broad grins on their faces when they came into the exam room to meet my husband and me.  It was true.  I was finally carrying a baby, and though I would have preferred for it to happen before reaching “advanced maternal age” I’m truly excited.  Better now than never.

Having said all that, deep fear rode me that it could all go wrong at any moment.  Like fate would tease me with something so miraculous and then take it away, so I’ve kept quiet until I reached the second trimester even though I knew some people would be wondering about the next book, but I feared jinxing anything.  During that time, I faced all the usual pregnancy related symptoms (nausea, exhaustion, severe headaches I couldn’t take pain meds for so I just curled in a ball until they passed, and a few other things that are less pleasant to even mention).  These issues are starting to taper off slowly and will hopefully be gone soon now that I’m on week fourteen.  The baby is due in mid-December, for those wondering.

My husband and I have also had to scramble to find a bigger home because our small apartment wasn’t going to cut it with a baby on the way.  I used up the days I was feeling a little better and more energetic to go house hunting and eventually found a great place to rent.  We we’ve been busy packing and will be moving into the house next week.  It’s got a yard and back patio, plus lots of extra space inside so it’s going to be a huge improvement over my current residence.

So all of this is to say, if you haven’t guessed already, that not a lot of writing has gotten done in the last few months like I’d hoped.  Destined for Dreams has been started, but it isn’t near completion yet.  My hope is that as soon as we get settled into the new house I can focus entirely on getting the novel finished.  I’ve been reassured by some of my fellow authors that the second trimester of pregnancy was an extremely productive time for them, especially compared to the first where it’s tough to be creative when it’s all you can do to hold your food down (if you can find anything you can tolerate to eat, that is).  I’m looking forward to buckling down in my new home (new to me, anyway) and giving you all a second novel in the Dark Destiny Series you can truly enjoy to be followed by the last book of the trilogy.

Please be patient with me in the meantime.  I’ll post updates as I have them and an excerpt once I’ve got something polished enough to share.  Thanks again to those who have been supportive along the way!

November update

This is one of those posts I put off writing because I know it’s going to upset people.  Those of you who have followed me for a while know I don’t get into my personal life much on my blog because I generally feel that should be kept separate from my professional one.  Every once in a while, though, it affects my writing. I feel it’s only fair you all get some explanation as to the reason why you might have to wait longer on a book.  Now is one of those times.

My husband and I have been married for over eight years.  We have yet to conceive despite doing nothing to prevent it.  I wasn’t terribly worried about it in the early years of our marriage because it gave us time with each other to build our lives.  Once I started writing, I wanted to focus on that for a while and get a few books out before adding a baby to my daily routine.  Still, I didn’t do anything to keep from getting pregnant either.  This past summer I turned thirty-five.  My husband and I both agreed we couldn’t ignore the issue any longer and that we were more than ready for children.  Clearly, we needed to take further steps to make that happen.

A couple of months ago we went to see a specialist.  Neither of us have anything in our history that stands out as an obvious cause for infertility.  Other than my chronic migraines and my husband having COPD (which he has under control through meds) we don’t have any major health problems.  I’m not going to get into the fine details since not everyone wants to read that, but suffice it to say we are healthy enough that conception shouldn’t be a problem.  Since that first doctor visit we have been undergoing a number of tests which have all come back normal.  I am told that fifteen percent of cases have no identifiable reason for why there is a problem.  We appear to be falling under that category.

We have reached the point now where they are referring me to another specialist to start treatments that should “help” things along.  I am both excited and nervous about this.  The success rate isn’t very high, but when it does happen it could result in multiple births.  It’s a risky move.  Yet I’m running out of time and don’t have a lot of other options.  If this is the only choice I have, then that’s what I’m going to do.

Through all of this, there’s been a part of me that feels like a failure.  It should be such a simple thing to get pregnant.  Millions of women do it every year with no problem at all, but I’ve never managed to do it once.  A lot of stupid things go through your mind when you face this sort of dilemma.  Am I just not good enough to be a parent?  Did I do something in my past and now karma is coming back to bite me? Is it simply my fate to never experience giving birth to my own child?  Yes, there are other options if things don’t work out, but I really want a chance for my husband and I to have a child together.

For the past couple of months these thoughts have been going through my mind.  With every visit to various doctors I’ve grown more frustrated.  None of them are very reassuring and their answers to my questions are often vague or unhelpful.  It’s been rather depressing and has affected other parts of my life.  While I’ve managed to finish writing most of Darkness Wanes, it’s not finished.  I hate to even admit that out loud.  The final chapters are completely plotted out in detail (that was easy because I’ve known how I wanted to the series to end for a long time), but getting those last chapters written has been difficult.  I’m pecking away at it now and finding my “zone” again.  It’s just been a matter of finding a way to push my personal problems aside.  Once they’re done, I’ll go through revisions next and get chapters out to beta readers.  For those of you who have beta read before, expect an email from me soon asking if you’re up for it again.

I can’t give a definite date for when Darkness Wanes will be published.  There are no more doctor’s appointments for the next few weeks as I wait for a referral to go through so at least I won’t have that to distract me.  I’m going to use this time to buckle down and get the novel done.  My hope is to get it finished by early December, but we’ll have to see how it goes. I don’t want to make any more promises I may not be able to keep.

I know this is going to upset some people.  You’ve been waiting for this book for a long time now and I hate that I let my personal problems get in the way.  I have some of the most awesome readers an author can ask for and you all deserve better than that.  Please just be patient with me as I work to get it done.  That’s all I can ask.

If it helps, here’s the cover for Darkness Wanes.  Usually I do a big reveal post, but I’m just going to let you all see it now.

Darkness Wanes medium cover